How many times have we asked someone how are they doing and they said, “I’m fine,” “everything’s fine,” “just fine.” How many times has a husband asked a wife what’s wrong and the wife says, “nothing, I’m fine.” And how many times have you said it and lied. For most people it’s an automatic response. They say it without thinking either because they don’t have the time to tell someone the real story and how they are actually doing. Or they don’t want to tell someone what’s really wrong.
There was a time when fine was a slang word. When a man said a woman was “fine” it meant she was good looking. Some men might have meant it in a derogatory way but depending on their tone, just like today, it was usually a compliment.
According to the dictionary, fine means high or highest quality, choice, excellent, or admirable, very well, like fine China or wine. But I don’t think this is what most people mean when they say they are “fine.” Some mean okay and some even mean mediocre. But no one who says fine means excellent, of the highest quality or very well.
I don’t know if this has ever happened to you but today when someone asked me how I was doing, I broke down in tears. Several stressful things have been going on and I had just gotten out of the dentist chair, which is WAY too stressful for me. Normally, I would say, “I’m fine.” but today, that would have been a lie. And I was obviously at the end of my “hold it all inside” rope.
If we are brothers and sisters in Christ, why do we lie to each other? There are times when we may not have time to talk but maybe we can make a date for coffee or invite them over. If this is not a friend we trust to keep our story to themselves just ask them to pray for us. If this is someone we don’t know that well, just give them a brief prayer request. God put us together on this earth to help us survive the ups and downs. We should be talking to each other, praying for each other and loving each other like God loves us, not lying to each other when we are asking about our lives.
So when someone asks you how you are doing, can you change your answer? Instead of saying fine, make it a more truthful answer. Say, “I’m good today,” “I could use some prayers about…. or “This has been a really great day! Praise God!! What about you?”
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